My first reaction when I read this was, “Only once?”
OK, there are weeks that go smoothly and I feel like a rock star. Then, there are weeks that crying is a regular occasion. (Who am I kidding… let’s talk in days and hours.)
Care.com polled 991 working moms for its 2014 Tipping Point Survey and found that 80 percent of moms feel stressed about balancing childcare, work, home and relationships — which makes sense if you consider that these women reported spending 80 hours on home responsibilities in addition to work. No wonder many of them are regularly breaking down in tears.
Speaking for myself only, my moments of greatest stress, and tears, come when I feel that I have not done enough for my children.
Did I say the right thing? Did I choose the right consequence? Did I spend enough time with this child? Did I expect too much? And on, and on, and on…
There definitely are moments where I worry about the other things as well. Bills, work, child care, family, school, etc. However, these are not the things that reduce me to tears.
While I like to think that I have an impact through my work and relationships, my true impact, and the one that matters, will be on my children.
Truth is, I look forward to the tears. Typically, there has been a build up of stress and worry, so the tears are cathartic. By the time the tears flow, I am grateful for the release. Letting the tears flow washes away all the stress and worry and let’s me get back to loving on my children.
So, let the tears flow. Let the stress go away. Let the worry leave me. And let me focus on what is really important.