There are times I think back on my time as a stay at home mom with nostalgia. I forget all the tough days, hours, and minutes, and just focus on those things I miss now that I am a working mom.
- Letting the kids climb in bed with me after Daddy left for work so we could snuggle and slowly wake up together.
- Making homemade meals from scratch.
- Going on a picnic for lunch as a last-minute decision and just grabbing good stuff from the fridge that was already prepared or purchased.
- Going grocery shopping in the middle of the day when it was quieter.
- Reading a book to the kids in the middle of the day as my children quietly nodded off to sleep.
- Turning the kitchen into an art studio for the afternoon.
Of course, looking back now, I would fondly remember these things because I forgot those times when the kids painted my walls with hot pink nail polish, or squirted food dye on themselves and my cupboards.
Being a mom is tough, whether I am at home or at work. And even if I wanted to, I could not go back to that. Mostly because, well…
(Yeah, parenting teens is crazy no matter what!)
Do I still want to spend lazy days with my kids? Or picnic and play at the park without watching the clock?
Sure… but I also like having more money to take trips, or pay for the sports and activities they are in. And I like interacting with adults. Even better, I like working on a project that actually is completed, rather than getting messed up over and over again.
Besides, last time I tried to recreate a lazy adventure day with my kids, their idea of “fun” was much different than mine. There were a lot more bumps in the road than I remembered…
But then again, I managed to forget many of the stay at home mom struggles I had so maybe it wasn’t all that different after all.